This month I didn’t make any goals. I stayed at exactly the same weight, which under the situation I consider a “win”. My family and myself personally underwent two unexpected traumas back to back. The first was when someone close to me threatened to kill me. The second was a week after when my best […]
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That feeling of freezing, the brain locked up, unable to process alternative ideas, feeling pushed especially when the other person demonstrates an emotional reaction. Looks like: Doesn’t want to consider other points of view; argumentative, freezing others out. Unless this locked up position continues even after de-escalation, “stubborn” is not a choice but part of
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The start of an ongoing series to try to break apart misunderstandings in ND and NT behaviors. Looks Like: Doesn’t register the emotions of others going on around them I’ve been burned by this assumption many times. My instinct to compartmentalize my emotions so that I don’t feel like they take over looks like I’m
Lost in Translation #01; Autistic: Unempathetic Read More »
PDA is known as Pathological Demand Avoidance, a term coined by Elizabeth Newson in the 80’s when she first discovered a constellation of unique avoidant traits in a subset of autistic children, but in recent years an alternative was posited to try to more accurately describe the feelings for some behind their in-born aversions: Pervasive
Pathological Demand Avoidance or Pervasive Drive for Autonomy? Read More »
Even as a PDA adult I’m not immune from misunderstanding my PDA kids. My oldest I relate to the most as we both are sarcastic, cutting, blunt, but very subdued with our distress. My middle PDA child however is VERY expressive with his distress, passive with his words. A meltdown for him looks like running
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YouTube Video This is something I created for myself a couple months back to help me keep a closer eye on how much activity and responsibility I piled on myself after I recover from burnout periods. Because of my struggles with interoception it is very easy for me to feel good one day and assume
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I’m creating this post as a reference for newcomers to my blog and Facebook page because occasionally I am going to talk about how my faith and neurotype interact. I thought it would be easier if I keep in one spot a brief but rounded explanation of how I try to express my faith but
My Personal Statement of Faith Read More »
Created this Translated 10 PDA Behaviors list and shared on my Facebook a couple days ago in response to a semi-controversial post released by Dr. Attwood re: 10 Behavior Features of PDA. Attwood compiled his list from a survey created by O’Nions (yes, onions) 2016 to help identify PDA going off of some of the
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I shared an infographic on my Facebook page yesterday to describe how I feel when people check in on me when I’m struggling or in burnout. My post got a variety of responses, with some people relating to my feelings, others pointing out how some don’t get checked on at all and feel worse for
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Trigger warning for anyone struggling with body image or eating disorders: My personal weakness is comfort eating and eating to stim flavors when stressed, so please be aware that that’s the direction I’m coming from as I try to heal my relationship with food. Also I mention weightloss apps and programs in this post, none
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