Five months ago I rolled out what was essentially an outline of a theory of expanding what are called trauma/threat/adrenal responses. These are the behaviors our bodies engage in when under threat; the most popularized being the four F’s: fight, flight, freeze and fawn. What started this journey was reading a blog my kindred writer […]
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The next three I do in the series will go together as a trio where I parse what masking means for autistics, neurotypicals, and PDA/CPTSDers. Looks like: The autistic is struggling and requires help to fit in with their peers. Classes, counseling, training will help them overcome all these struggles their autism presents The Reality:
Lost in Translation #06a; Autistic: Masked Read More »
I have not felt like a good mom lately. And before many rush in to reassure me that “none of us are perfect parents” and lament systems and cultures that put unrealistic pressure on us; I do understand that. Honestly I do. This isn’t about me feeling bad for not being perfect. This is me
Making Respite Work Read More »
In a recent Instagram/social media share, Jo Frost released the following: Jo Frost is well known for her long-running television series “Supernanny” where she travels the U.S. trying to help troubled families with their children’s behavior. This image with its caption alone is enough to bristle most neurodivergent families; how often are we accused of
Current Events: SuperNanny Strikes a Bad Chord on Social Media Read More »
These last two weeks my mind keeps circling over my pain. It has been a month since I last talked to my former best friend, and still throughout the day an intrusive thought pops in full of rage at feeling misunderstood. Sadness that that person is struggling. Sadness that I’m struggling. What brings two people
Healing gray pain with a black and white mind Read More »
Looks like: Expects things of others that they won’t also do themselves. The Reality: PDA needs flexibility from others, but struggles if others need the same. This isn’t a matter of control because of arrogance, but survival. What others can’t see is that below the surface there are limited resources, and PDAers have to be
Lost In Translation #05; PDA: Double Standard Read More »
Part 2 of my brief examination of how I see the intersection of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs with Disability. Hierarchy of Needs Intersects Disability My previous blog describes how providing for children’s needs impacts their emotional development into adulthood. Here I view disabilities as the underlying foundation. If disabilities aren’t provided the necessary protections and
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Looks like: Parents of autistic children getting in arguments with autistic adults about claiming a cure for their children. As a late-diagnosed autistic adult I watch parents and autistics argue and in some situations feel I see them talking past each other. Parents confusing behaviors for neurotype, autistics defending neurotype where parents claim “healing”. The
Lost In Translation #04; Autistic: Cured! Read More »
Looks like: Focused on single topics to the apparent exclusion of outside facts, perspectives, or the world around them. There are times when getting lost down the rabbit hole of research is an expression of dysregulation, but unless their emotional state looks distinctly effected, it’s very common for some to become so absorbed in topics
Lost In Translation #03; Autistic/ADHD: Obsessive Read More »