At the 2024 PDA North American Conference this year I did a breakout group session with co-host PJ Starling on the topic of PDA and adulting. Early in it became clear that the audience concerns were around 1) whether or not people with older children could expect their PDA child to “adult” with success, and […]
Reminder that my goal here isn’t a meltdown-free life. All kids and adults have meltdowns, but especially if you are living neurodivergently. I consider it a success when my kids only have one or two a day (depending on age, puberty, so on), myself only one or two a week, and if I’m able to
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I published a podcast recently on the topic of romance and PDA, but heard from more than one person that reading what I have to share would be much easier to access (which I understand because I feel the same). This won’t be the equivalent of a transcription, but an adaptation of my notes. The
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I have not felt like a good mom lately. And before many rush in to reassure me that “none of us are perfect parents” and lament systems and cultures that put unrealistic pressure on us; I do understand that. Honestly I do. This isn’t about me feeling bad for not being perfect. This is me
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This month I didn’t make any goals. I stayed at exactly the same weight, which under the situation I consider a “win”. My family and myself personally underwent two unexpected traumas back to back. The first was when someone close to me threatened to kill me. The second was a week after when my best
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YouTube Video This is something I created for myself a couple months back to help me keep a closer eye on how much activity and responsibility I piled on myself after I recover from burnout periods. Because of my struggles with interoception it is very easy for me to feel good one day and assume
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I shared an infographic on my Facebook page yesterday to describe how I feel when people check in on me when I’m struggling or in burnout. My post got a variety of responses, with some people relating to my feelings, others pointing out how some don’t get checked on at all and feel worse for
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Trigger warning for anyone struggling with body image or eating disorders: My personal weakness is comfort eating and eating to stim flavors when stressed, so please be aware that that’s the direction I’m coming from as I try to heal my relationship with food. Also I mention weightloss apps and programs in this post, none
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A personal reflection on the Fawn trauma response.
Trauma response: Fawn Read More »