Author name: webdebutante

Mother of three boys who works from home. My areas of interest are autism (specifically the PDA profile), art, personal growth, spirituality (my faith is non-denominational Christian), and humor.

My counselor told me I’d know that I was recovered when I…

In 2014 I hit autistic/PDA burnout before I had an accurate diagnosis. I got lucky and found an affirming counselor who approached me with low demands and low expectations to facilitate my healing. I remember the imposter syndrome that I struggled with despite her patience and understanding. At my core, getting “better” felt threatening because

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PDA & Sex

It is common for PDA adults who enjoy sexual intimacy to freeze up by the expectation in it. These are individuals who desire the sexual contact, feel safe with their partners, and are willing participants, and yet aspects around sexual intimacy can inadvertently create pressure and shut us down. Expectations can be: Celebrating romantic occasions,

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A Response to the Harry Thompson/NEST controversy

Edited to remove more specific commentary on the situation in order to protect victim’s rights. This image I made is labelled for PDA families but is honestly true of ALL children. Children need caregivers to help guide and provide supports where needed. Adults on the other hand are responsible for utilizing the resources they have

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