Looks like: Expects things of others that they won’t also do themselves. The Reality: PDA needs flexibility from others, but struggles if others need the same. This isn’t a matter of control because of arrogance, but survival. What others can’t see is that below the surface there are limited resources, and PDAers have to be […]
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Please note: This advice is not intended to replace guidance from a trained professional Had my counseling appointment today. Because I’m showing signs of PTSD from my experiences recently my counselor is recommending a treatment he uses called Dorsal Vagus Nerve Threat Response Remediation Technique. He mentioned teaching me it before as something I could
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Part 2 of my brief examination of how I see the intersection of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs with Disability. Hierarchy of Needs Intersects Disability My previous blog describes how providing for children’s needs impacts their emotional development into adulthood. Here I view disabilities as the underlying foundation. If disabilities aren’t provided the necessary protections and
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Looks like: Parents of autistic children getting in arguments with autistic adults about claiming a cure for their children. As a late-diagnosed autistic adult I watch parents and autistics argue and in some situations feel I see them talking past each other. Parents confusing behaviors for neurotype, autistics defending neurotype where parents claim “healing”. The
Lost In Translation #04; Autistic: Cured! Read More »
Looks like: Focused on single topics to the apparent exclusion of outside facts, perspectives, or the world around them. There are times when getting lost down the rabbit hole of research is an expression of dysregulation, but unless their emotional state looks distinctly effected, it’s very common for some to become so absorbed in topics
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This is a short series examining the intersection of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs with both childhood development and neurodivergence. Hierarchy of Needs Intersects Childhood Development Through play, exploration, & comfort seeking, children develop each level into a structure that protects their “inner child” as they grow. Children naturally test and explore their environment. Relationships are
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This month I didn’t make any goals. I stayed at exactly the same weight, which under the situation I consider a “win”. My family and myself personally underwent two unexpected traumas back to back. The first was when someone close to me threatened to kill me. The second was a week after when my best
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That feeling of freezing, the brain locked up, unable to process alternative ideas, feeling pushed especially when the other person demonstrates an emotional reaction. Looks like: Doesn’t want to consider other points of view; argumentative, freezing others out. Unless this locked up position continues even after de-escalation, “stubborn” is not a choice but part of
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The start of an ongoing series to try to break apart misunderstandings in ND and NT behaviors. Looks Like: Doesn’t register the emotions of others going on around them I’ve been burned by this assumption many times. My instinct to compartmentalize my emotions so that I don’t feel like they take over looks like I’m
Lost in Translation #01; Autistic: Unempathetic Read More »