The next three I do in the series will go together as a trio where I parse what masking means for autistics, neurotypicals, and PDA/CPTSDers. Looks like: The autistic is struggling and requires help to fit in with their peers. Classes, counseling, training will help them overcome all these struggles their autism presents The Reality: […]
Lost in Translation #06a; Autistic: Masked Read More »
Looks like: Expects things of others that they won’t also do themselves. The Reality: PDA needs flexibility from others, but struggles if others need the same. This isn’t a matter of control because of arrogance, but survival. What others can’t see is that below the surface there are limited resources, and PDAers have to be
Lost In Translation #05; PDA: Double Standard Read More »
Looks like: Parents of autistic children getting in arguments with autistic adults about claiming a cure for their children. As a late-diagnosed autistic adult I watch parents and autistics argue and in some situations feel I see them talking past each other. Parents confusing behaviors for neurotype, autistics defending neurotype where parents claim “healing”. The
Lost In Translation #04; Autistic: Cured! Read More »
Looks like: Focused on single topics to the apparent exclusion of outside facts, perspectives, or the world around them. There are times when getting lost down the rabbit hole of research is an expression of dysregulation, but unless their emotional state looks distinctly effected, it’s very common for some to become so absorbed in topics
Lost In Translation #03; Autistic/ADHD: Obsessive Read More »
That feeling of freezing, the brain locked up, unable to process alternative ideas, feeling pushed especially when the other person demonstrates an emotional reaction. Looks like: Doesn’t want to consider other points of view; argumentative, freezing others out. Unless this locked up position continues even after de-escalation, “stubborn” is not a choice but part of
Lost in Translation #02; Autistic: Stubborn Read More »
The start of an ongoing series to try to break apart misunderstandings in ND and NT behaviors. Looks Like: Doesn’t register the emotions of others going on around them I’ve been burned by this assumption many times. My instinct to compartmentalize my emotions so that I don’t feel like they take over looks like I’m
Lost in Translation #01; Autistic: Unempathetic Read More »