Recently I had a conversation with a mom of a PDA child where it occurred to me that, as a mom who also is PDA, I likely have a keener sensitivity to what “behaviors” are typical (even in a best case scenario) and which are indicative of more serious issues.
This is an initial list of behaviors I’ve seen firsthand, and are not exhaustive but give a an idea of the typical PDA landscape.
Typical (not-severe) Dysregulation
- Saying things plainly, even if “rude”
- Short outbursts of anger in response to unexpected stress or demands
- Needing hours/days of time alone
- Erratic ability at self-care
- Lines occasionally/often blurred between fantasy and reality
- Disregarding authority figures
Remember PDA children have the unavoidable stress of “learning” and “growing” and needing a LOT of helps from others developmentally —all of which trigger PDA reactions no matter how many helps and techniques are in place.
ARE signs of possible severe Dysregulation
- Needing weeks/months of time alone
- Negative self talk
- Hyper critical of life
- Outbursts extend far beyond their immediate triggers
- Almost completely lost to fantasy or hobbies/interests
- Repeated compulsive behaviors
Reading up on PDA positive interventions is recommended to alleviate stressors
Happy PDA’ers…
- Have their quirky sense of humor
- Share their thoughts freely with their safe people
- Readily demonstrates their own excitement and spontaneity
- Shows affection (on their terms, of course)